I dont want to 3b/stack J9 on the flop here, i think its a little too loose vs this guy.

I think betting is perfectly fine. Honestly I dont hate just folding to his raise, you are OOP, he makes it very big, tons of turns suck, you dont know whats a bad card or not, you dont know how hes going to play moving forward, and youve got a "meh" hand.

I think 3 bet is far worse than calling tho, the board is so drawy that he can potentially just shove lots of worse hands but your hand still isnt strong enough to want to play for stacks,  hes also not likely folding to your 3 bet on this board, and if he just calls now you are stuck OOP on the turn in a huge pot with a ton of bad cards to navigate.

I think this is a great spot to check back the flop vrs an opponent who c/r this much I think J9 is ahead of him but i am not crazy about playing a big pot with my hand and works well as a check back because you can get to showdown alot and keep the pot size down with a good but not great hand 

I think I should just fold pre given his tendendcies to defend alot passive and actively. 

@freefalling: I'm oop, so i would have to chcall

Ye, i like the idea of betfolding, we will have lots of stronger hands on this board, but I think its also just too strong to chcall. 

I think J9 is too good to just open fold in the SB, we have a limited sample, and hes already folded 60% of those, so odds are hes your typical player who just folds far too often to steals. Your prolly +EV even if you only play post flop if you hit a monster.