Played in my local casino. Grew a decent sized stack of 1.4k. 8 handed. Not sure if I played this hand wrongly so any advise would be greatly appreciated, folks! I've got pockets 10s pre flop. It gets limped around to me in the cut-off. I raise it to 20, get called by the button and the small blind.

Small blind has about a 3k stack, the button has about 400 bucks.

Flop brings us 10 9 2 rainbow. Small blind checks, I make it 35, the button makes it 100. Small blind flat calls, I raise it to 395. Button folds, small blind flat calls. Turn is a 7, small blind open shoves.

I tank for I swear 10 minutes before folding. He shows me a j8 for the straight. The two of us are pretty friendly because we play pretty often, so on a smoke break I ask him. He says if I made it 550 or so he would've folded. Is it true? Would I be losing value for making it 500 or so, or did I raise the right amount? Should I have flat called and just seen a turn card and possibly get to the river?

Or should I have just called his shove?

Let me know pls thanks!!